Feminist: a person who supports feminism

Feminism: the belief that men and women should have equal rights and opportunities

To not be a feminist is to not support feminism.

Kaley Cuoco came out as not being a feminist, stating that, “I was never that feminist girl demanding equality, but maybe that’s because I’ve never really faced inequality.”

Well, does this mean I could say, “I don’t need to be that girl demanding equality for LGBT/racial minority people, but maybe that’s because I’ve never really faced inequality for being LGBT/racial minority.”  She’s clearly been so focused on herself that she hasn’t observed the inequality women face for being women.  She is from a well-to-do family that could take her on frequent trips to Los Angeles for auditions.  It’s painfully obvious she has no idea what trials most women face at some point in our lives for nothing more than being women.  Further, she definitely doesn’t have the intelligence to realize that feminism doesn’t mean you can’t take care of your spouse.  Feminism is about having the choice.

Being a feminist doesn’t mean you can’t be a stay-at-home wife.  I’m a stay-at-home wife and mother who sews, cooks, cleans, writes, all the traditionally girly things, BY MY CHOICE.  Feminism is about more than that.  It’s about having the right to make medical decisions for ourselves without having to worry about employers vetoing what care we can get.  It’s about not being paid less for the same work as equally-qualified male co-workers because we’re women.  It’s about the same opportunities we’d get if we were men, and having equal respect.  She may not have to worry about access to birth control, or dealing with being paid a whopping 40% less than the men on her tech team (like I was!!!), but that doesn’t mean that inequality doesn’t exist.

It really irks me to have women dismiss the struggles of other women because they personally are wealthy enough to not have to deal with it.  Her little claim that, well, she’s never had to deal with it, so why bother being a feminist, is very sexist.  Sadly, this is happening more and more.  A growing number of women are no longer seeing the point.  So many women fail to see how companies having the right to dictate our bitch control choices, our underrepresentation in several fields, and politicians who don’t think rape really exists, are problems.  Many women don’t realize that the rape and sexual assault epidemic is a symptom of misogyny.  It’s the belief that our bodies should be public property, free for the taking if our skirts are too short.

We need feminism still, and women not caring since they’re financially privileged enough to be above it hurt the rest of us.  It’s heartless, and it shows a disconnect.  How many of her fans are women who are struggling to get basic care that is being called a privilege?  Or are being passed up for promotions since a manager thinks a lesser-qualified man should be bumped up since bossing is men’s work?  What she has said to all her female fans is she doesn’t care because she’s in a position high enough to not personally have to deal with it.

Kaley, open your eyes and realize you don’t have to personally go through something to care about those who do.  Do you not bother with advocating equal rights for LGBT people since you, as a straight woman, aren’t at any risk?  Would you have sat by idle in Alabama when blacks were fighting for rights since you, as a white woman, face no challenges for your race?  Realize that it’s about a lot more than you care to learn about.  Do you want any daughters you may one day have to have fewer opportunities than you’ve had?

My fellow women, that on earth is going on when so many among us are content to sit back and not care anymore?  Why is our rights being stripped becoming accessible?  Why is abuse romantic?  What the hell is going on that more and more women are accepting of these things?  Something is very wrong here, and it’s dangerous.